Time To Be Selfish {Health and Wellness Series – Part One}


Time To Be Selfish 1

As much fun as it would be to say that I indulge in all things selfish, it would be a lie. See, I have pretty much always been the one to be selfless and sacrifice for others to a fault. As moms, we really seem to do that so often, if not all the time. This is what I thought warranted the “good mom”, the “good wife”, the “good friend”, the list goes on. But let me tell you, I quite enjoy helping others and making their day just a little better, if I can.

But helping others and sacrificing one’s self are two very different things. In theory, it sounds good. In reality, not so much.

I learned this a few years back when I overloaded myself. In theory, I was helping others out and making extra money for my family. In reality, I was not sleeping at all and missing quality time with my family. All of this sacrificing caused me to take two months medical leave from my job. I didn’t know how to function anymore. I was barely sleeping, not eating right, and forgot what the word exercise meant? Even part way into my leave (when I thought I was doing much better) I was on the phone with my husband and just passed out. I fell to the floor, but the memory I have of it was not that.

We had been talking about something that was of real interest to me. I was sitting on my bed when all of a sudden I couldn’t hear him well. It was like I was voluntarily zoning him out. I had a dream (for lack of better word) that I was falling underwater. I was trying to unravel myself from a thin sheet. I could hear someone’s muffled voice above the water. When I came to, I realized the voice was my husband on the phone. The thin sheet I was wrapped in was my hair.

I told my husband what had just happened. It honestly was one of the scariest moments in my life. So many “what ifs” came to mind. What if I had been near the stairs when that happened? What if I hit my head on something and my then two-year-old twins were left alone? I knew right then that my sacrificing was NOT at all benefiting anyone. I knew that “dream” meant that I was completely drowning under all that I put on myself.

My husband had been telling me for a long time that I needed to change my priorities in order to truly help others. As we all know, we don’t always listen to our spouses, but I finally did. I began to say no more often. I asked for more help with the twins from my oldest daughter and my husband to be able to have proper sleep.

Last year I REALLY became selfish. I had worked over eight years on weekend overnights. Last year I took a position in my office that was a weekday evening shift. That meant more help with the twins. That meant I had weekends off to do normal people things (when working weekend overnights, you cannot be more opposite of normal.) It is such a great feeling to be selfish that I will not be changing anytime soon!

I will go into detail of the components that truly helped me in part two of this four-part Health and Wellness series.

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Hello, I’m Cristy! I am a mom to three ah-mazing girls. Not sure quite how it happened, but my oldest is graduating high school! My other two girls are separated by two hours and 22 minutes. Yes, you read that right! They are my Christmas night babies, who will be starting kindergarten in the fall. I have a wonderful husband who has put up with me for over 12 years now. I was born in Western NY and moved around many times. I have always said that my mom didn’t spring clean — we just moved. I am so excited to say that after 11 years away, I am back to my Seacoast roots again in Exeter. I am also a habitual chatterbox, lover of the 80’s (and all things 603, of course), and completely full of quirkiness. I am excited to be a part of the blogging world and can’t wait to get to know you all!


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