Recently I talked with my mother about what Pride means to us as a family. As we reflected together, I realized pride actually impacts ALL of us — not just the LGBTQIA community.
My Mother is Gay.
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Waking around the Seacoast over the last few weeks I noticed rainbows and symbols for the PRIDE celebration everywhere I turned. For the first time I either seemed to notice it more or there was just more of it. There are lots of celebrations planned for PRIDE, parades and events. Check outWe spoke together recently about how the pendulum has swung on the acceptance and openness and about what PRIDE means to me as a child of a gay parent.
There are 3 main things PRIDE can mean for all of us.
PRIDE is about kindness
My daughters grow up loving their grandmother and knowing that her partner is a woman. They don’t bat an eye. They are growing up now where this is normal. In a way, I feel whiplash. I did not get to grow up like that at all. I got to grow up hearing negative phrases like “that’s so gay” about anything or everything under the sun. When I was young, people would make jokes about someone being gay. It was a put down. We have years to make up for that. For me PRIDE is about being kind to one another. Period. And knowing that you never truly know what it is like in someone else’s shoes or home.
PRIDE is about healing
I think growing up in a society with that negative attitude towards people who just love differently than you might be familiar with – especially when they are your family member – creates so much hurt that can last long term. When you have had to live with many in society hating on your family member or especially a parent or a child that is gay, there is some major healing that needs to happen. When I saw those rainbow cookies at the local bakery and the advertisements for the parades, it made me really pause and think about how much has changed. Instead of hiding, we are now celebrating! All the healing that could be done over the years to come could be huge. I think about all the shame and self hatred that can come crumbling down just by simply celebrating. In public!
PRIDE is about acceptance
Baby we are born this way!! I think PRIDE can open the door for future acceptance of ourselves. Instead of beating each other up about how we live or love, we could be accepting each other and seeing past all the ways we aren’t alike. Human Beings come in all many different shapes and sizes, colors and gender. So what?! Accept that someone is not exactly like you and carry on. Accept yourself and with all that extra energy you could change the world.