{"id":2360,"date":"2016-09-09T09:00:42","date_gmt":"2016-09-09T13:00:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/theseacoastmoms.com\/?p=2360"},"modified":"2016-09-08T12:14:06","modified_gmt":"2016-09-08T16:14:06","slug":"whatever-mom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theseacoastmoms.com\/mental-health\/whatever-mom\/","title":{"rendered":"I’m the “Whatever” Mom, and it Wasn’t Easy Getting Here"},"content":{"rendered":"

Whether we admit it\u00a0or not, we moms\u00a0tend to attach ourselves to a mothering “type.” And if we aren’t calling ourselves names, we can be sure\u00a0another mom is doing the name-calling\u00a0for us. I’m the “Whatever” mom and I’m proud of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have probably heard at least one of these before: “helicopter” mom, which has been\u00a0humorously parodied<\/a> everywhere; “tiger” mom (read more about the history of this term here<\/a>); “lawnmower” mom; “free-range” mom; “attachment” mom; and “dragon” mom, to name a few. I hear them, read about them, and witness several in action everyday;\u00a0yet, I cannot relate to any of them. It is not because I rise above these titles, but none\u00a0pertain to how I view my mothering.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

My “Whatever” mom self-described status reflects this: the children are breathing, happy, and growing. <\/span><\/h2>\n

Other phrases\u00a0that come to mind: just let it be<\/em>; nobody got time for that;<\/em> and a dash of I will fake it til I make it.<\/em> Perhaps I feel this way because I am juggling\u00a0twins. Maybe it’s because I am the eldest of four girls and\u00a0played the role of\u00a0second mother in the house. Or, maybe it’s because I work full-time outside of the home; but I just feel we think too hard as moms.<\/span>\"hurried<\/p>\n

We think too hard because we love unconditionally. <\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

We want the best for our babies without others questioning how we provide\u00a0it. We have a fervent desire to secure healthy futures for\u00a0our families. Brand new\u00a0moms especially find themselves\u00a0fretting over the seemingly trivial, yet for\u00a0perfectly\u00a0good reason. We feel it our duty to strive to be the best when we feel we are trying to do it all at our worst.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is\u00a0not easy for me to let it go and be the “Whatever” mom, which is why I wrote this post. <\/span><\/h2>\n

I was always the kid who finished\u00a0school projects on the first day of a semester, and who immediately started thinking about the presentation that would accompany it\u00a0(total nerd-alert, I know). I later became the adult\u00a0who\u00a0settled for an entry-level hospitality job, worked full-time, and then juggled part-time classes,\u00a0climbing up the career ladder to where I am today. And here I am, still working full-time and raising twin toddlers. I am somewhat of a perfectionist who loves to learn, and a creative\u00a0soul that lives for the next challenge. In new motherhood, this translates to pending disaster if you cannot find it within yourself to let some parts of you go.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t have to document\u00a0every second of a baby’s life in his or her baby books. Your babies don’t need ever-so-costly pediatrician-approved equipment; nor do they require only the highest-quality organic, all-natural foods at every meal. You don’t have to look like the “mommy models” in the latest Parents<\/em>\u00a0Magazine<\/em> issue (thankfully); nor are you required to enroll your toddler in only the best school or\u00a0playgroup activities. These aren’t the things they will remember. What they will remember is the loving mother they had by their side, no matter the “type” of mom she was<\/span>.<\/p>\n

Be the mom you want to be.<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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